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I'm taking a Christmas blog break. Merry Christmas to you and yours. The blog will return on Monday, January 5th.
Friday, December 26, 2014
Wednesday, December 24, 2014
Thinking about Good King Wenceslas
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? They're too long to copy in this blog, but I
encourage you to click the link and read the full lyrics to Good
King Wenceslas.
It's
all about this good king who looks out his window and sees a poor man
gathering fire wood. He takes his page and they bring the poor man
food and fire wood. The wind is bitter cold, and the king's page
grows weak and doesn't think he can make it. The king has him walk
behind him, in his footsteps. This (1) blocks the wind, and (2) it's
warmer where the king has stepped.
Think
about that. When we face life with Jesus, he doesn't remove us from
the bitter wind, from the suffering and sacrifice one endures by
doing good, but he helps us bear it. We're doing it with him.
The
song ends with these lines:
Ye
who now will bless the poor
Shall
yourselves find blessing
What
a good thought for Christmas.
Monday, December 22, 2014
Thinking about Hark the Herald Angles Sing
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? They are two lines
in the second verse of this song:
Pleased
as man with man to dwell
Jesus
our Emmanuel
Wow.
It still blows my mind thinking about God leaving his throne in
heaven to be with us. To die for us. And all when we hated him.
Christmas is such a special time, when even the secular world
constantly plays this songs the proclaim the Gospel so powerfully.
Friday, December 19, 2014
Thinking about O Little Town of Bethlehem
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? The end of the first verse of O Little Town of
Bethlehem goes:
In
thy dark streets shineth
The
everlasting Light.
The
hopes and fears of all the years
Are
met in thee tonight.
Jesus
really is the culmination of all of mankind's hopes and dreams. Jesus
can still shine in the dark streets of our lives today as much as
ever. He is ready and willing. Are we?
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Thinking about Angels We Have Heard on High
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? The chorus of Angels We Have Heard on High
goes:
Gloria
in excelsis Deo!
It means “Glory to God
in the highest!” At Christmas, even the secular world plays these
songs. As pagan as our society has become, there's still one time of
year where God's praise echos from under every rock, from every
store. It does the heart good.
Friday, December 12, 2014
Thinking about What Child Is This?
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? Sometimes you don't have to get past the title.
What
Child Is This?...
Whose child am I? Do we
realize the answer depends on the question above? We would not be
God's children if Jesus had not been Mary's. Think about that today.
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Thinking about O Holy Night
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? The end of the first verse of O Holy Night, with the
first line of the chorus, is amazing.
A
thrill of hope
The
weary world rejoices
For
yonder breaks
A
new and glorious morn!
Fall
on your knees...
Are we weary this holiday
season? God has the thrill of hope and a new and glorious morn for
us, but it requires that we fall on our knees. Think about that
today.
Monday, December 8, 2014
Thinking about O Come All Ye Faithful
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year?
O
Come, All Ye Faithful,
Joyful
and triumphant!
Sometimes
you barely get past the title. Stop and just think about that right
there. We're Christians, we're the faithful, but are we joyful and
triumphant? We intellectually know we are, but do we get deceived
into acting like we're not. Think about that, and may we all live out
“joyful and triumphant” today.
Friday, December 5, 2014
Thinking about O Come O Come Emmanuel
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? Have we taken the meaning of these songs for
granted? Think about what the words of this song really mean:
O
Come, O Come, Emmanuel
And
ransom captive Israel,
That
mourns in lonely exile here,
Until
the Son of God appear.
Rejoice!
Rejoice! Emmanuel
Shall
come to thee, O Israel.
The
cool thing is “Emmanuel” means “God With Us”. Rejoice this
Christmas – God has come to be with us! For real!
Wednesday, December 3, 2014
Thinking about Carole of the Bells
This
is one of my favorite Christmas carols. Have you ever really thought
about these words? Think about this while reading the words below.
We're the bells. Are we ringing?
Hark
how the bells,
Sweet
silver bells,
All
seem to say,
“Throw
cares away.”
Christmas
is here
Bringing
good cheer
To young and old
Meek and the bold.
One seems to hear
Words of good cheer
From everywhere
Filling the air.
Oh, how they pound!
Raising the sound!
Over hill and dale,
Telling their tale.
On, on they send,
On without end,
Their joyful tone
To every home.
Monday, December 1, 2014
Thinking about Joy to the World
Have
you ever really thought about the words to Christmas carols that we
sing every year? Have we taken the meaning of these songs for
granted? Think about what the words of this song really mean:
Joy
to the world!
The
Lord has come!
Let
earth receive her king!
Let
every heart
Prepare
him room,
And
heaven and nature sing.
Let
this bounce around your heart today.
Friday, November 28, 2014
Getting Free from Shame/Fear/Control
Getting free from the
shame/fear/control stronghold we've been talking about this week
generally takes help/ministry from a friend, pastor, counselor, or
all of the above. That's just the way it is. We'd like to do it
ourselves so we don't expose our shame about having shame. Doh! Do
you see the cycle playing itself out even in trying to get free from
it?
Opening up to another
person about all this kicks fear in the head, because we're taking
the risk. And without fear, shame has no power, and we have no need
to control. Taking that risk is an act of faith; we're trusting God
to keep us safe, rather than doing it ourselves.
And there's another key
reason to involve someone else in our process of getting free. We got
into the clutches of the shame/fear/control stronghold by believing
lies, by being deceived. There's a funny thing about being deceived –
we don't know we're deceived. By definition – think about what the
word “deceived” means. So it's easy to think we've gotten free
from it when we really haven't. We all need a trusted circle (at
least one person but hopefully a few) who will tell us the truth that
no one else will.
The big thing is praying
to replace ungodly beliefs with godly ones. While you're praying,
renounce the ungodly belief as a lie (out loud), and state the godly
belief that you now believe (out loud). The person praying with you
can pronounce freedom to you. (“Confess your sins one to another”
James 5:16.)
This is very powerful
stuff. It's not about saying magic words. It's about saying out-loud
what you believe in your heart, and hearing someone else say out loud
their blessing over us. Because we have governmental authority (see
my post on this subject, here's the link: http://www.davewernli.com/2014/07/we-have-governmental-authority.html).
I cannot recommend this
highly enough. It may seem a little strange at first – but trust me
on this one. It is so much better to be free – you'll be so glad
you did.
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
God's Truth over Shame/Fear/Control
Monday we talked about
the shame/fear/control stronghold (scroll down to see that post).
Today we'll talk about how to defeat it. It's all about agreement –
who are we going to agree with? The ungodly beliefs that give
shame/fear/control legal right to oppress us, or God's truth – what
he says about us.
Here's what
shame/fear/control says versus what God says.
Shame says, “I am
uniquely flawed; no one is as bad as me.” God says, “No
temptation has overtaken me except what is common to mankind”
(1 Corinthians 10:13).
Shame says, “I am
fatally flawed; no one can fix me.” God says, “By his
strips I am healed” (1 Peter 2:24). God says, “He was
pierced for my transgressions, the weight of my sin was upon him”
(Isaiah 53:5). God says, “He became sin for me” (1
Corinthians 5:21).
Shame says, “I am
something bad.” Godly conviction says. “I did something
bad” (1 John 1:8-10). God says, “I am fearfully and
wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). God says he loves us (Psalm
139, Ephesians 1:3-14, 1 John 3:1, and many, many more).
Fear and control say, “I
have to control my circumstances and situations.” God says, “I
should cast all my cares on him because he cares for me”
(1 Peter 5:7).
Fear and control say, “I
have to make sure I enough with my own hand.” God says, “He
will supply my every need according to his glorious riches in Christ
Jesus” (Philippians 4:19).
So you decide. Who are
you going to believe?
Monday, November 24, 2014
The Shame/Fear/Control Stronghold
Shame is the lie that we
are uniquely & fatally flawed. Uniquely flawed – no one else
is as bad as me. I'm the only one who feels this way, the only one
who is this bad. Fatally flawed – I'm unfixable, I can't get
healed from this, so the best I can do is hide it so no one else
knows.
So we live in fear that
someone else will find out, that our shame will be exposed. So we
control our environment – our lives and the people around us – to
prevent anyone from finding out. Sometimes we turn into people
pleasers, agreeing with the group or person we're with at the time to
be accepted. Sometimes we turn into perfectionist performers, trying
desperately to appear good enough to hide that we're not. Sometimes
we turn completely immoral – better to let the world see the shame
I want to show them rather then the shame I'm trying to hide: “You
won't see that if I show you this.”
The shame/fear/control
stronghold is one of the most effective strategies the enemy has to
keep Christians from living out who they really are. If the enemy
can't defeat your salvation, he at minimum wants to neutralize your
giftings and steal your destiny. Because you living out who you
really are, who God's called you to be, literally scares the Heaven
out of him.
We all have it, to one
degree or another. Stay tuned – Wednesday we'll talk about how to
defeat it.
Friday, November 21, 2014
Intimacy Wants To, Not Has To
Obedience is easy when
you're in passionate love. In fact, we don't even think of it as
“obedience.” We so want to please our lover that anything we even
get the inkling they would like we are totally ready to do. And more.
“Really? That's all you want? You can have more. I can do more.”
We try to invent ways to
please them, to surprise them with what we did, just to see them
smile. If what they want us to do is also actually good for us,
that's a bonus. We'd have done it anyway.
That's the way our
morality should be with God. If we obey his laws and follows his ways
from a place of intimacy, deep lover-passion, it's not burdensome,
which it's not anyway because his laws are good for us. Unless we're
deceived, then it can be burdensome.
But in the truth of his
intimacy, it's a delight. Pleasing him brings us closer to him, our
lover. And we're disappointed we can't do more, because we want to be
even closer to him.
It's not about “earning”
closeness to him, or doing good to get close. It's about doing good
because we are already so close. Out of love, not obligation. It's a
world of difference in perspective.
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
Intimacy Serves
The mark of our intimacy
with Jesus is not how awesome our experiences with him are. Nor how
long they are. Nor how often.
The mark of our intimacy
with him is how we serve others. The Bible says it better than I ever
could:
“The son of man did not
come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for
many.” (Mark 10:45).
“[Jesus], who being in
very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be
grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a
servant, being made in human likeness” (Philippians 2:6-7).
“In humility, consider
others better than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3b)
We reflect the person we
spend time around the most. Jesus was the biggest servant humanity
ever saw or ever will. If we truly have intimacy with him, we'll show
that by serving those around us, and loving doing so.
Monday, November 17, 2014
Identity from Intimacy
Who we really are, our
true identity, flows out of spending time with Jesus.
The world shouts at us
constantly. Lies about who we are. Lies about how to be who we are
told we want to be. Contradictory lies, one for every possible
vulnerability. The enemy only has to win once.
But Jesus whispers who we
are. Who we really are. Who he created us to be. Our true destiny.
Constantly. Consistently.
If someone's shouting and
someone's whispering, you have to be really close to the whisperer to
hear them. And we will eventually believe the one we hear the most.
Finding our true destiny
depends on our intimacy with Jesus.
Friday, November 14, 2014
The Power of Agreement
We forget who we are
sometimes. It's easy to do. We get caught up in our schedule, our
commute, all the demands placed on us. The emergency trip to the
craft store for the school project assigned a week ago that our child
just told us about now, due tomorrow of course. Kid stuff. Family
stuff. Work stuff. Accident blocking the interstate, tripling our
commute. Kidney stone. Flu. Worse, kid with flu.
All of these are
legitimate things that we have to deal with. There's a country song
that goes, “Some days you're the windshield, some days you're the
bug.” Great song. But we are made in the image of the Living God.
We are never the bug, no matter what happens.
We have governmental
authority over the atmosphere around us. Not over the circumstances –
God appoints the times and seasons – God chooses where (that is, in
what circumstances) he appoints us. But in those circumstances, he
appoints us as his government. (See my post
http://www.davewernli.com/2014/07/we-have-governmental-authority.html for the scripture about our governmental authority.)
Anyone who's ever worked
for the US Federal Government knows that when governmental bodies are
in full agreement, it is a powerful (and rare) thing. When the
Legislative, Executive, and Judicial branches agree on something,
it's the Law of the Land, and there's nothing anyone can do about it.
When government agencies agree to cooperate, they can put in place
tremendously effective programs to catch bad guys.
In the Kingdom of God, it
takes far less people, and our agreement is even more powerful.
Listen to this: “If any two of you on earth agree about anything
they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For
where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
(Matthew 18:19-20 NIV) Jesus himself said that.
In our own lives and the
atmosphere that surrounds our lives, it only takes one. Ourselves.
Agreeing with God, or not. Every moment of every day, we are either
agreeing with what God says about the situation, or we are agreeing
with what the enemy says about the situation.
Let's agree to agree with
God and what God says. It's harder but more effective. In the end,
we'll be glad we did. That's faith, you see. And Jesus always
responds to faith.
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
Such A Time As This
“Who knows but that you
have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” (Esther
4:14b NIV). Mordecai said that to his niece, Queen Esther, to
encourage her and strengthen her heart.
She needed it. She alone,
of all Israel, was in a position to speak to King Xerxes and stop the
planned slaughter of the Jews in Persia. Uncle Mort was asking her to
do to a very dangerous thing – appear before the King without being
summoned. She had a very good, legitimate reason for not wanting to
do that. Normally that would get you killed.
But then again, normally
the original queen would never have been deposed. Normally, a Jewish
peasant girl (who hid she was Jewish) would not be chosen to be in
the replacement harem. And normally, that same said Jewish peasant
girl would not be chosen to be the new queen, right at the same time
there was a plot afoot to murder all the Jews. Nothing about this was
normal.
How about us here in
America? The freest, greatest country in the world, looked to as the
world leader. Yet we're tearing ourselves apart, embroiled in a
fierce culture war, and righteousness appears to be losing. There's
nothing normal about this.
Do we remember who we
are? “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble
themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways,
then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will
heal their land” (2 Chronicles 7:14). It doesn't matter what the
pagans do; it matters what we as the Church does. It's a call to sell
out completely as disciples of Jesus, pursuing intimacy with him
above all else. Deciding to agree with him about all issues whether
we understand, agree, or dislike his answer or not, dying to
ourselves and our precious American rights.
It's exciting, really, to
be on the cusp of changing a culture back to God. Who knows but that
we have come to our present position for such a time as this?
Monday, November 10, 2014
Has Jesus Suffered Enough?
Someone hurt me really
bad. Really, really, bad. Betrayal bad. Someone close to me, someone
I trusted implicitly. You know those times when you're hurt so bad
you can hardly breathe? Then they were unrepentant and the pain went
on and on.
I knew I should forgive.
I said the words. I tried to feel it in my heart. But the next day it
would come up again. Forgiveness is a process. I would forgive again,
do my best to let it go, but, boy, did that person owe me.
Then a Christian
counselor taught me that the person is not the evil they did to me.
Yes, they did evil to me, no doubt about it. But the person is not
the evil they did. She taught me that once we can acknowledge that,
then we can come to a place where the person doesn't owe us anything.
While she was teaching
me, I had a vision. Not an open vision or anything, just in my mind's
eye. I saw Jesus hanging on the cross, and he asked me, “Have I
suffered enough to pay you back for what that person did to you?”
The question shocked me.
I knew Jesus died for my sins against God, but it never occurred to
me that he died for other people's sins against me. “Yes, Jesus, of
course,” was all I could say. And I meant it. Instantly, the
feeling that the person owed me a debt vanished. I can honestly say I
felt like they didn't owe me a thing. It was the most freeing feeling
in the world!
That person's sin is now
between them and God. I'm out of it. Even if they are still bound by
their sin, I'm not bound by it anymore. And I can pray blessing for
that person.
That's forgiveness. Not
that I'm patting myself on the back or anything. The point here is if
I could learn it, so can you.
Friday, November 7, 2014
The Cop-Out of “Don't Judge Me”
Does
not judging mean I have to tolerate abuse or evil behavior against
me? The perps would like us to
think so. Abusers pervert the whole “don't judge” principle to
their unholy advantage. So let's get this sorted out and bring some
balance here.
Judging,
accountability, and our emotions are all totally
independent. Our society,
and even the church, constantly gets these confused. You can forgive
someone and hence not be judging them, while at the same time holding
them accountable for their behavior, while still being angry and
hurt. If their behavior was criminal, you can prosecute them to the
fullest extent of the law while completely forgiving them.
We
should always
hold abusers and criminals accountable for their behavior, for two
main reasons:
- To protect others from being victimized like we were.
- So (hopefully) the person, when confronted with their sin, repents and turns to the Lord who sets them free from it, healing them from the pain in their lives that made them vulnerable to that sin in the first place.
Working
through our emotions over the matter is totally separate from whether
we hold the other person accountable or not. If the sin against us
was grievous, we may need to walk our emotions through the stages of
grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance). Get
Christian counseling, inner healing, deliverance, probably all of the
above, whatever help you need to work through it. It's normal to need
help to work through the emotions in a healthy way. An excellent plan
is to work with both a Christian counselor and your Pastor.
Forgiveness
doesn't mean pretending it never happened and or not holding the
person accountable. It means releasing them from owing us anything
for it. Because we realize they are not what they do. We can still
set healthy boundaries as long as our heart is right – not to
punish them but either to (1) keep ourselves safe, or (2) hold them
accountable (for example, if it's an authority-to-subordinate
relationship like parent-child or employer-employee).
Judging
and forgiving are not activities centered in our emotions, but in our
will. They have nothing to do with how we feel about the person who
hurt us. They have everything to do with what we choose to believe
about that person. They have everything to do with what we declare
about that person.
So
what do we declare about the person who wronged us? Are they the evil
they did to us? That's judging. Or can we declare that they are not
the evil they did to us? That's forgiveness. It really is that simple
(but it's not easy).
Mercy
toward others triumphs over the judgement we deserve.
Wednesday, November 5, 2014
Law of Relationships #4 of 4
You
become what you judge. When I first heard this, I took some
convincing. But they showed it to me in the Word of God: Romans 2:1
says, “You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgement on
someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are
condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same
things.” See? You become what you judge.
Since
learning about this, I have witnessed it to be true, both in my own
life and in the lives of those close to me. When we harbor resentment
and judgment, we will eventually start doing the same things, and
eventually become what we hated.
If
it's not too corny, think about this. Even George Lucas has figured
this out. It's the theme of the Star Wars movie Return of the
Jedi. Luke's vengeance against
his father (Darth Vader) gives him the opportunity to become his
father. This is the choice Luke must make at the end of the movie –
to complete his judgement on his father, and hence become him, or to
forgive his father. And it's the power of Luke's forgiveness that
frees his father from his deception, and he saves Luke. But whether
Luke lived or died, he still made the better choice. Better to die at
the hands of Emperor Palpatine than to live as Darth Vader II.
Judgment
sets us up to become what we hated. This is why forgiveness is so
vitally important. It releases us from repeating the evil done to us.
Mercy
triumphs over judgment (James 2:13b NIV).
Monday, November 3, 2014
Law of Relationships #3 of 4
Don't
judge, or you'll be judged. This is an example of sowing and reaping
(see Friday's blog
http://www.davewernli.com/2014/10/law-of-relationships-2-of-4.html).
Judging
and forgiving are complete opposites. When someone does evil against
us, we are either doing one or the other. But we'll get to this in a
couple of days. This relationship law goes far beyond evil done to
us. Because unfortunately, our judging often goes far beyond evil
done to us.
We
judge things we don't like, even though the person isn't doing
anything to us. We sometimes make our personal preferences into
idols, and then our self-righteousness makes them doctrine to impose
on others. At that point, we've become Pharisees, who made the
Traditions of the Elders equal to the Law of Moses (Matthew 15:1-6).
Churches
have split over the style of music or the color of the carpet. Ever
condemn a style of music you didn't like? If the words are sinful,
then the words are certainly wrong, but not the style. The style, the
instrumental music itself, is ok even if we don't personally like it.
So if it's something that doesn't affect us, if it isn't in black 'n' white contradiction to the Word of God, and if it isn't self-destructive behavior, we're better of dropping it. It's probably just our personal preference. And we'll receive the same grace from God we give the other person (or not).
Mercy triumphs over judgment.
Friday, October 31, 2014
Law of Relationships #2 of 4
You
reap what you sow. Galatians 6:7 says, Do not be deceived: God
cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. This one is all over
scripture. We've all heard the Golden Rule (Matthew 7:12, Luke 6:31),
treat others like you want to be treated. But rarely are we told the
reason. Growing up, I always thought it was just one of those “must
do because it's the right thing” things.
But
the truth is, even from a selfish point-of-view, we want to do this.
Because we reap what we sow. People will treat us the way we treat
them. This concept is actually getting a little traction in the
culture with the phrase, “Pay it forward.” Or how about the
bumper sticker I've seen so often, “Practice random acts of
kindness and senseless acts of beauty.” Or to put it more bluntly,
“What goes around comes around.” See, even the world has figured
this one out.
So
what about when I sow kindness and mercy and people give me crap?
What about when I'm nice and people are still jerks to me? Huh? What
about that?!? Wow, then you're
very lucky. Because then, God makes up the difference, because you're
being like him. He will be kind and merciful and gentle and
understanding to you. He will “pay it forward” to you. And that's
way better than any person could ever do anyway.
And
if you're really lucky, he'll pay you in currency of intimacy with
him. There are no greater riches.
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
Law of Relationships #1 of 4
The
first law (or principle) of relationships that God has woven
throughout the fabric of the universe involves the very first
relationship we ever had – the one with our parents. “Honor
your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you,
so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the
land the Lord your God is giving you.” (Deuteronomy 5:16) This
one is so important it made the Ten Commandments. And it's the first
commandment with an explicit blessing (Ephesians 6:2).
In
whatever area you honor your parents in, you will be blessed – it
will go well with you. That's a promise from God. But the reverse is
also true – in whatever area you do not honor your parents in, it
will not go well with you.
There's
no age limit given in the commandment. Even as an adult living on our
own, there's still a blessing for honoring our parents. We can still
make our own decisions. But we should listen to them, and prayerfully
consider what they say, even if we think they don't know what they're
talking about. Just because they're not experts, or even
knowledgeable, about the domain they're giving us advice about,
doesn't mean it's not from God. God often speaks through parents,
especially godly ones, even in stuff they know nothing about. The
Holy Spirit is giving us wisdom through them – it will go well with
us if we listen, and it will not go well with us if we don't. Ask God
how to apply what they've said.
What
if they're abusive? We don't have to submit ourselves to unsafe
situations. We can set healthy boundaries, and they don't have to
like them. Just because they accuse us of being dishonoring doesn't
mean we are. But there are healthy boundaries within which we can
honor our parents, whether they deserve that honor or not. In an
abusive situation, please ask a Christian counselor and
your Pastor to help you set healthy boundaries.
Judgements
we hold in our hearts about our parents – this is the most common
form of dishonoring our parents. We need to release ourselves from
that judgement by forgiving them – accepting that they are not the
evil they did to us. We can acknowledge that they did evil to us,
whether they do or not. But we release them from owing us anything –
we claim Jesus' sufferings as payment in full for the wrong they did
against us.
See
my previous posts about forgiveness for help with this very difficult
task.
Monday, October 27, 2014
God's Physics of Relationships
The
laws of God are like gravity. They exist and operate whether we
believe in them or not. I'm using the word “law” here like in
physics – principles we observe operating universally. God set up
these laws to bless us. For example, airplanes, gymnastics, weather
and communication satellites – all of these blessings come from
understanding the law of gravity and using it properly.
But
if we say, “I don't believe in gravity, so I'm going to jump off my
roof and fly,” I daresay we are in for a rude awakening and an
abrupt landing! Gravity still operates as God designed it whether we
believe in it on not. “Gee, that was dumb,” we would say to
ourselves as we hobble around the next few weeks on crutches. We
injure ourselves if we try to live in opposition to God's law of
gravity.
God's
principles apply to the saved and unsaved alike. Both saved and
unsaved can be blessed by air travel or an around-the-world phone
call. Both saved and unsaved alike will be injured if they jump off
their garage. Hobble, hobble.
So
many of us today, even Christians, hobble through our injured
relationships because we don't understand relationship principles, as
trustworthy and universal as physical laws, that God wove into the
fabric of the universe to bless us. When we live in opposition to
them out of ignorance or outright willful sin, we injure ourselves,
saved or unsaved. But when we live in accordance with them, that area
of our life will be blessed, saved or unsaved.
So
these next few blog posts will be fun – stayed tuned as we go
through God's 4 laws of relationships. You might find it explains a
lot. :)
Friday, October 24, 2014
I Like Winning Banners
[Author's
Note: I've repeated the following post several times. That's because
I think it's so important that we realize the intimacy Jesus wants
with us. It's really foundational to what I've trying to say and do
with this blog.]
In
Song of Solomon 6:4, the Lover (Jesus) calls his Beloved (you and
me), “majestic as troops with banners.” Armies carry banners to
celebrate battles they've won, and to show off to any potential
future adversaries how BA they are.
In
the next verse, Song of Songs 6:5, the Lover (Jesus) says to his
Beloved (you and me), “Turn your eyes from me, they overwhelm me.”
The Lover is saying to his Beloved, “Don't look at me like that –
the love in your eyes for me is overwhelming me with emotion and I
might lose it,” while he smiles and looks away, so she can't see
he's blushing. Jesus is blushing!
When
you don't feel like you're winning at all, when life has the better
of you, when you're sure you're going down for the last time, when
you can't feel His presence, but you still choose His ways and choose
to trust Him instead of give place to fear and anxiety – in those
times when you felt Nothing but chose Him anyway, He felt Everything!
You just won a majestic banner, and He blushed.
I
like winning banners. Out of His overwhelmingly great love for us, He
puts us in those situations where we feel overwhelmed and don't feel
Him at all. So we can win a banner. So we can choose to trust Him
instead of dwelling in fear, out of our love for Him, and it makes
Him blush!
On
that Day when we finally see him face-to-face, the walls of our
mansion in Heaven will be decorated with the banners we won in this
life in those moments when we trusted Him instead of ourselves or
something else. Wow.
Wednesday, October 22, 2014
Shame vs Guilt
Guilt,
or conviction, is what the Holy Spirit gives us, because he loves us,
when we do something wrong. He's trying to correct our behavior that
(1) is self-destructive, and (2) interferes in our relationship with
him. The message of guilt is, “I did something wrong.”
Shame,
on the other hand, is not from God, but rather is Satan's perversion
of godly guilt. Shame is the belief that I am uniquely and fatally
flawed. The message of shame is, “I am something wrong.” That's
the “flawed” part. In addition are the “uniquely” and
“fatally” adjectives of shame:
- “I am uniquely flawed.” No one is as bad as me. I am the only one with this problem.
- “I am fatally flawed.” I can't be fixed. My flawed-ness is permanent.
Shame holds so many
Christian's in prison, keeping them from living out their true
identity, or often even knowing it. But each of shame's three lies
described above get smashed to pieces by the Word of God:
- I'm not something wrong. I was made in God's own image (Genesis 1:27). I have been made a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), and God loves me apart from what I do (Ephesians 1:3-14).
- I'm not uniquely flawed; I'm not the only one like this. No temptation has seized me but that which is common to mankind (1 Corinthians 10:13).
- I am not fatally flawed. Jesus' blood is bigger and stronger than any and all of my sin, and by his stripes I have been healed (Isaiah 53:5, Romans 6:10, Hebrews 9:28, 1 Peter 3:18).
So who are you going to
believe?
Monday, October 20, 2014
Re-Profiling
Forgiveness
can be really hard. Especially when you've truly been grievously and
unfairly wronged. Especially when the perp is unrepentant. But it's
so important, because our unforgiveness keeps us in prison, not the
other person.
It's
a process, not a single event. It can be a long process, one that we
keep going back to – forgiving again and again – layer after
layer – going deeper and deeper.
One
exercise that can significantly help us along in this process is
re-profiling the person. No single person is wholly evil – only
Satan and his demons have that distinction. So there is something
good about the person. Rack your brain and find those things. If you
just can't, ask the Holy Spirit; he'll tell you. Then write it down.
The
goal here is to write down how God sees the other person, which is
not necessarily how they are behaving right now, but how he made them
to be. So then when we fall into bitterness, we go back and read our
re-profile of them. Read it out loud – let your ears hear your
mouth say it. It's powerful.
Then
you start thinking of the other person in terms of how God made them,
versus what they've done. Because they are not the evil they did to
you. Wrapping our mind and heart around that last sentence is the
essence of forgiveness.
Re-profiling
makes this much easier, and it is very freeing. Try it!
Friday, October 17, 2014
Fear, The Great Identity Stealer
I
find, in my own life and in the lives of others I talk to, there's
one thing, more than anything else, that keeps us from living out who
we really are. Fear, The Great Identity Stealer.
What
if I try and it doesn't work? What if I fail? Most of us have been
raised with such a performance orientation that we're deceived into
thinking that failure's bad. But failure is not sin. And in the
Kingdom of God, not only is it a prerequisite, it has another name –
Experience.
God
has a track record of calling people to things bigger than themselves
that are totally impossible and won't work, at least not by human
standards or human effort alone.
- A guy who stutters, Moses, to talk one-on-one to the most powerful leader in the world and demand he release a million slaves.
- A cowering farmer (Gideon) to be a warrior and deliver Israel.
- A shepherd boy, David, to be king of Israel.
- A peasant girl (Mary) to be the mother of the Messiah.
- An uneducated fisherman, Peter, to be the apostle to the Jews, who respected learning and education.
- An educated Pharisee, Paul, who hated Christianity and was trying to destroy it, to be the apostle to the Gentiles (who couldn't care less about the Jewish law), and to write more books in the New Testament than any other writer.
- Me, a software engineer of 25+ years, to write a book about emotions (Mixed Emotions), and transition to a Christian author and speaker.
- You, to do that thing that makes your heart leap.
I
love the stories, like Moses and Gideon, where people argue with God
about their calling. God never disagrees with them about their
excuses; he just totally ignores them. “Nevertheless,” he says,
“I will be with you.” Translation: “Come on, it'll be fun.
You'll like it. Eventually.” And suddenly the impossible works out.
See,
God's called you to do something you can't do without him because he
wants to partner with you to get it done. So if God's our partner,
what are we afraid of?
When
I wrote my book, Mixed Emotions, I was tremendously afraid it
would be a flop. I didn't want to risk being a failure. But then I
thought, you know, I know what it looks like if I don't do this. I've
been doing that for 25 years. But I don't know what it looks like if
I do try this. And there's only one way to find out. So I followed my
heart and took the leap, and we'll see where it goes. I'm learning by
successes and failures along the way what works and what doesn't. I'm
still finding out what it looks like. But I'm loving the adventure.
How
about you? What makes your heart leap? If you were, theoretically, to
do that thing, what would the first step be? Think it out, plan it
out, and then take the leap. Try it. See what it looks like. If it
fails, learn from the experience and try again, wiser this time. The
Lord your God is with you.
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
Offense, The Great Energy Stealer
There's
a great book by John Bevere called The Bait of Satan
about offense. Allowing ourselves to be offended at other people is
The Great Energy Stealer. I'm not talking about disagreeing or being
angry with people – I'm talking about being offended at people. You
know the difference. We've all felt it.
It
takes so much energy to stay offended. God made us very capable
people, so we can do pretty much anything we put our mind to. So if
we decide to stay offended, we certainly can. But that's not what God
designed us for, so it's exhausting.
All
that energy could have been put into being who we were created by God
to be, but being offended steals it. And it blinds our mind so all we
can see is red. Here's a litmus test: If we can't pray blessing on
the other person, we're offended.
So
let's disagree with others without being offended by them. We do that
by praying to God, confessing our sin of offense to him (it doesn't
matter whether the other person sinned or not, or how wrong they
are), and asking him to take our offense. And then let it go by
praying blessing on the other person. You'll be amazed at how much
lighter you feel, and how much extra energy you have.
Monday, October 13, 2014
Reaction, The Great Authority Stealer
As
Christians, we know revenge is wrong. We quote Romans 12:9,
“Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord” (which is Paul
quoting Deuteronomy 32:35). We don't think of our reactions as
revenge. But many times, when we have an ungodly reaction to
something, we're really taking revenge, punishing the other person
with our wrath.
Reaction,
revenge, striking back, whatever you want to call it, is The Great
Authority Stealer. It cements us as the Victim, and the other person
as the Perpetrator. In the ungodly relationship between Victim and
Perp, who has the power, the authority? The Perp!
But
that is not God's plan for us. As the Bible says in Hebrew 6:9, “I
am confident of better things in your case.” We can express
emotion, as long as we also exercise godly self-control. “In your
anger do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26). Here's a free hint: Use “I
feel...” statements rather than “You did...” statements.
An
ungodly reaction comes from a lack of trust in God. When we trust
God, and the first word out of our mouth is praise to him in that
circumstance (and y'all know that circumstance in your own life), we
retain our Authority that Jesus gave us through His blood to speak
life into that situation, and to the other person.
And
we make Satan stub his toe. Let's make that bugger hobble on
crutches!
Friday, October 10, 2014
Intimacy Forever
Most
religions' version of heaven promises some form of eternal pleasure.
Most are some form of self-centered pleasure. One world religion even
promises 70 virgins. Not sure that's heaven for the virgins. Subtle
clues of a man-made religion. Another promises being god of your own
world.
But
Christianity is different. Eternal pleasure, yes, but the pleasure is
Jesus. Spending time with him, seeing him face-to-face. Eternal
intimacy, relationship unhindered, with the Father. Forever.
The really mind-blowing thing is God designed it so it's heaven for Him, too.
Whoa, now that's a brainful!
Wednesday, October 8, 2014
A Sloppy Wet Kiss
There's
a song by Jesus Culture called
How He Loves that has the best line in a worship song ever. Of.
All. Time.
Heaven
meets Earth like a sloppy wet kiss
Sometimes
we have such a wrong view of God. He is neither a harsh task-master
opposed to fun nor a kindly grandfather who's nice but completely
irrelevant.
He's
a passionate lover-king, who could do anything he wants at anytime,
but doesn't do anything without partnering with us. Such is his deep,
lover-passion for living life with us. Totally awesome.
Monday, October 6, 2014
Duty vs Pleasure
I've
heard people talk about our Christian duty – to live holy lives, to
share our faith, etc. And we should live holy lives and share our
faith and all that. But out of some sense of “Christian duty”? I
think that's the wrong paradigm. Duty is often a synonym for
drudgery.
Think
of it this way. It's a husband's duty to make love to his wife, but
he seldom thinks of it as duty. It's something he looks forward to,
because he loves his wife and it's way fun.
We
should have the same mindset about living a Christian life, sharing
our faith, etc. And if we really knew Jesus as our soul-lover we
would. Our lover-king.
Living
holy is So. Much. Fun. And sharing our faith – if we really knew
God, we'd love it. The Holy Spirit shows up with words-of-knowledge
for the other person, and maybe we get to pray for physical or
emotional healing or something. I mean, how cool is it to do
miracles, right?
Doing
things out of lover-pleasure beats duty any day of the week.
Friday, October 3, 2014
Fear vs Adventure
Yesterday I talked about
softly worshipping out loud wherever we find ourselves, by giving
soft voice to the worship song already going through our head anyway.
I bet most readers had
the same initial reaction to that idea: Fear. Would we be afraid to
do that? I'd wager that is most people's initial reaction.
I don't know about you,
but I'm pretty fed up with Fear right now. Like, it is officially off
my Christmas card list. Fear is the great paralyzer. Even more than
Judgment, which we talked about last week, Fear steals who we really
are. And personally, I'm sick and tired of being pushed around by it.
So I'm kicking Fear in the head. Whenever I realize I'm afraid, and
Fear is the main reason I'm not doing what otherwise seems like a
good idea, especially if it seems like a God-idea, I'm doing it
anyway. I'm get excited to see what adventure God brings me.
So I'm trying to start
something here. Let's start quietly singing the worship song going
through our head. If there's not one going through your head, then
don't worry about it. But if there is, give it voice. Let's see where
God takes us. Send me email or post a comment and let me know what
happens.
Wednesday, October 1, 2014
My “What If...”
What if we all worshiped
all day long? No really. Many of us have a worship song going through
our heads all day long. What if we let that song come out? What if we
gave it voice? Just a little bit, out loud, but not loud, just
softly. Not obnoxiously singing in public, but quietly, just a
whisper, so only someone next to us could hear it?
It would change the
atmosphere everywhere we went. The likes of Letterman and Seinfeld
would joke about bumping into these quiet singers everywhere they
went, and how annoying they are when you're trying to have a bad day.
It would change the
atmosphere everywhere we went. And Christians would get a reputation
in the society as worshipers instead of judgers. How awesome would
that be?
Don't do this if you
don't have a song in your head; that would just be legalistic. Don't
force it. But if you happen to have a song in your head while you're
out somewhere, just let it out. Let it have quiet voice. Let's start
something here. Let's see what happens.
Monday, September 29, 2014
The Routine Buster
Are you caught in the
grid? It's so easy to get caught up in our schedules, activities, and
all. And that's all good stuff. But that stuff's not the point.
Trapped in the routine of
our daily lives, the flood of the ordinary can drown out any spark of
the supernatural. And the real casualty is our expectations. We don't
see the miraculous because we don't expect it anymore.
Solace – the practice
of getting alone with God – is the great routine buster. It renews
our mind, and our heart. It refreshes our spirit, recharges our
battery. In Solace, the Lord reminds us of the adventure we're on and
the plans He has for us. He renews our hope and dreams.
We might just begin to
hope in them again. And maybe, just maybe, even take the first baby
step in that direction. You know, if this dream on my heart was to
happen, what's the first step I would take? Then take it. See where
it goes. What if?
Friday, September 26, 2014
Getting Out of that Chair
This week we've talked
about how we put ourselves in the Good Guy Chair and people who have
wronged us in the Bad Guy Chair, and how judging steals our identity.
So here's how to get out of the Good Guy Chair; aka, the
Victim Chair.
Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not
pretending nothing happened. We can admit they sinned against us and
did an evil, ugly thing to us. Forgiveness is declaring they are not
the evil, ugly thing – their action was. We forgive by
understanding we as human beings are not what we do. And the other
person is not what they do. They are not the evil they did to us.
Forgiveness is an act of
the will. You can be angry about what was done to you and still
choose to forgive. You can still set boundaries so you're not hurt
again while still choosing to forgive. That is, provided our anger
and our boundaries are set against the person's actions – not
against the person themselves.
They are not what they
did to us. That realization, which can only hit home in our hearts by
the power of the Holy Spirit, allows us to still grieve what they did
to us and hence go through the process of healing the wound, while
simultaneously releasing them from owing us anything for it. That's
forgiveness.
Wednesday, September 24, 2014
The Good Guy and Bad Guy Chairs
Yesterday we talked about
how judgement steals our true identity because we become what we
judge.
When we judge, we put
ourselves in the Good Guy Chair, and we put the other person in the
Bad Guy Chair. The trick to getting judgement out of our lives and
getting our true identity back is to get out of the Good Guy Chair.
But that means releasing the other person from the Bad Guy Chair.
There's another reason we
want out of that Good Guy chair as fast as possible. It has another
name, a secret name. A name that if we realized it, we would never
have climbed up in there to begin with.
The Good Guy Chair is
really the Victim Chair. And unless we release the other person from
the Bad Guy Chair, we will be stuck in a life of victimization. Who
wants to be a victim? Not me, and I'll bet not you.
Monday, September 22, 2014
The Great Identity Stealer
Judgement – more than
anything else – steals our true God-given identity, who he created
us to be. Because we become what we judge.
Romans 2:1 says, “You,
therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgement on someone else,
for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself,
because you who pass judgment do the same things.” Did you catch
that? To say it another way, “You do the same thing you judge the
other person for doing.” So when we judge, we will start doing that
thing we judged. God's word cannot be broken.
God didn't create us to
be what we're judging. That's not our true identity at all. Nowhere
in the Bible is judging on the list of spiritual gifts. No one has
the gift of judgment or criticism. So judging is the great identity
stealer – it turns us into something we were never meant to be.
Friday, September 19, 2014
I Like Winning Banners
In
Song of Solomon 6:4, the Lover (Jesus) calls his Beloved (you and
me), “majestic as troops with banners.” Armies carry banners to
celebrate battles they've won, and to show off to any potential
future adversaries how BA they are.
In
the next verse, Song of Songs 6:5, the Lover (Jesus) says to his
Beloved (you and me), “Turn your eyes from me, they overwhelm me.”
The Lover is saying to his Beloved, “Don't look at me like that –
the love in your eyes for me is overwhelming me with emotion and I
might lose it,” while he smiles and looks away, so she can't see
he's blushing. Jesus is blushing!
When
you don't feel like you're winning at all, when life has the better
of you, when you're sure you're going down for the last time, when
you can't feel His presence, but you still choose His ways and choose
to trust Him instead of give place to fear and anxiety – in those
times when you felt Nothing but chose Him anyway, He felt Everything!
You just won a majestic banner, and He blushed.
I
like winning banners. Out of His overwhelmingly great love for us,
He puts us in those situations where we feel overwhelmed and don't
feel Him at all. So we can win a banner. So we can choose to trust
Him instead of dwelling in fear, out of our love for Him, and it
makes Him blush!
On
that Day when we finally see him face-to-face, the walls of our
mansion in Heaven will be decorated with the banners we won in this
life in those moments when we trusted Him instead of ourselves or
something else. Wow.
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