I am rebooting my blog and website. My wife and I are launching the Identity In Wholeness ministry -- an online community dedicated to living & walking out the fullness of who Jesus created us to be.
There is so much brokenness out there, even in the Body of Christ. Forgiveness is not the same as healing. So often we, even as Christians, are the walking wounded. We want to share the healing with you that the Lord has brought us through.
Our new URL is www.IdentityInWholeness.com. See you on the inside!
Tuesday, June 21, 2016
Friday, June 17, 2016
“But I Go to Church...”
“I
go to church! What else do I need?” Good. I'm glad you go to
church. We should. It's hard to have relationship with somebody if
you never go to their house. But that's not enough. Not nearly.
Because that doesn't make a relationship.
The
Bible compares our relationship with God to a marriage. If you're
married, try spending only an hour or two a week with your spouse and
see how that works. Yeah, you laugh because you know that won't cut
it. Not by a long shot. You can't have intimacy with somebody on a
few hours a week, and that in a group setting.
If
you're not married, I bet you laughed too when you read that
sentence. That's not the marriage you hope for – only seeing the
person you're spending the rest of your life with once a week for a
couple hours.
Yet
we're too often content to spend only a few hours a week with the
person we're going to spend the rest of our eternity with. That's
pretty jacked up.
Church
is good, and we need that corporate worship time; it's very
important. But we need intimacy with Jesus, just him and us, too.
Just like with our spouse. In fact, he wants to be closer than our
spouse. No other religion boasts a god who wants that! Woof!
Tuesday, June 14, 2016
Intimacy Not Insurance
Jesus
didn't die to give us salvation. Controversial statement, I know. But
it's true. He died to give us relationship with him. Salvation was
just the prerequisite.
Jesus
didn't die to be our insurance salesman. Often we get distracted away
from the intimacy he wants with us right now in this life. We think
it's ok because we have a policy with Jesus Christ Mutual Life. But
without a lifestyle of intimacy with him, we're not keeping up on the
premiums. We're in danger of hearing, “Away from me, I never
knew you” (Matthew 7:23). Policy cancelled.
He
died to be our Lover-King. Read Song of Songs – that's the kind of
personal intimacy with us he wants. Lover close, private intimacy.
Yes, we need corporate worship also, there's power there. But we also
need that private time – just him and me. Just him and you.
“We
[the Father and Jesus] will come to him and make our home with him.”
(John 14:23). Catch that? He wants to move in. He's not standing
at the door and knocking because he's selling fire insurance or the
latest sin vacuum. (Revelation 3:20).
Christianity
is about so much more than salvation. There. Is. So. Much. More. It's
about a wonderfully unpredictable and adventurous relationship with
our Living Lover-King God.
Friday, June 10, 2016
Parental Inversion
Parental
inversion is when the child has to be strong for the adult. It's when
the adult draws emotional strength from the child. It's rampant in
our society because we adults don't know how to be adults. Children,
and I include teen-agers where it is especially prevalent, don't know
any better – when their parent is hurting, of course they want to
be strong for them. But they aren't equipped to be. They aren't
supposed to be.
We
adults are supposed to be strong for our children. We adults are
supposed to show by example the Christian life of long-suffering and
self-sacrifice, flowing out of beautiful and rich intimacy with the
Lord. When we frequently receive that abundance of his presence
directly from him, we can sacrifice to ourselves because we're
overflowing with Jesus. We never don't have enough.
But
instead, often we don't spend enough time with him (if any) to get
that overflow. So we live from crisis to crisis, in fear that we
won't have enough. And we pull our children into adult
responsibilities and adult concerns that they aren't emotionally
equipped to deal with. It breaks the heart of God when children can't
be children.
But
there's hope for parental inversion. If this is you, get counseling,
get help. You cannot do this alone. For your children's sake, if not
for your own.
We
get out of parental inversion by coming to the place where Jesus is a
real person we commune with, and he gives us the emotional support we
need, instead of drawing it from our kids. We get out of parental
inversion by sacrificing our safety in the crisis. By risking not
having enough. By trusting he'll give us enough.
We
know he's enough because we've lived it. We put our trust in him when
it was all on the line, and he came through. Maybe not how we wanted,
but he came through how he wanted and we're still standing. So we can
sacrifices ourselves in whatever crisis we face, for the sake of our
kids. That's the example they need to see.
Tuesday, June 7, 2016
The Pig I Have
One
morning a rural pastor was out visiting folks in his congregation and
had this conversation with a poor farmer.
Pastor:
“Farmer Brown, if you had two horses, would you give one of them to
the Lord?”
Farmer:
“Absolutely, Pastor, you know that I would.”
Pastor:
“If you had two cows, would you give one of them to the Lord?”
Farmer:
“Without thinking twice about it, in a heartbeat, Pastor.”
Pastor:
“If you had two pigs, would you give one of them to the Lord?”
Farmer:
“Well, now, Pastor, that's not fair. You know I have two pigs.”
(Kudos
to Pastor David Sauer for this great story.)
We're
happy to give God what we don't have. “Lord, if you let me hit the
lottery, I'll give you a million dollars, pay off the church's
property, and then I'll start tithing. And since I won't have to
work, I'll spend 4 hours a day praying and worshipping, reading my
Bible, and communing with you.”
But
God doesn't want the horse or the cow we don't have. He wants the pig
we do have. He knows our schedule. He doesn't want the million
dollars or the 4 hours a day we don't have. Or even the hour a day we
don't have. He wants the 10 minutes a day, even the 5 minutes a day,
that we do have.
Let's
start there. Let's start daily. With something. No guilt, we're not
checking a box here. Just giving him what we do have.
That's
how you build intimacy with the Lord. That's how relationship starts.
Spend that daily time, just you and him, no matter how small.
Faithfully. As you're faithful, you'll be amazed and how faithful he
will be in giving you more time. Watch it grow. Tell me in the
comments what happens.
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