For
a long time (over a decade), I kept peace in my house at any price. I
sacrificed what God told me was right for the sake of peace. I fled
from conflict. If something was wrong in my house, and I knew
addressing it would lead to a fight, I kept my mouth shut. If my wife
was angry, even if her position was diametrically opposed to what God
told me, I capitulated to keep peace in my home. And I was wrong do
to so. This was cowardly. This was my sin. It devastated our home and
our marriage. When I finally learned to stand up, there had been so
much water under the bridge, that marriage ended in divorce. Not
proud of it, not ok, just fact.
Many
husbands do this. It's actually epidemic in our society. Ever hear
the phrase, “Happy wife, happy life”? Or how about, “Ain't mama
happy, ain't nobody happy”? These are demonic lies from the pit of
hell. Do not let them become ingrained in your marriage.
Now,
don't jump to the other extreme here. Husbands aren't supposed to be
tyrants or overlords, either. Paul compared marriage to the
relationship of Christ and the church. It's a helpful analogy. The
husband should be the most sacrificial in the relationship, just like
Christ sacrificed much more than we the church ever can. But Christ
is definitely in charge, as should be the husband.
Matthew
5:9 doesn't say, “Blessed are the peace keepers.” It says,
“Blessed are the peace makers.” This applies to all human
relationships, not just marriage. Braving the argument and making
peace by offering godly terms, boundaries, and solutions—that's
what Jesus says is blessed in the beatitudes. Seek the Lord and come
in unity to a godly resolution. But don't capitulate to what you know
is wrong just to keep a false peace.
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